Mused Literary Review – Summer Solstice 2018

Summertime and the living is easy! I love the summer. I love being able to walk along the ocean, my bare toes scrunching into the warm sand. I love being able to do yoga on my back porch while the birds sing from the trees. I love going to outdoor music concerts and being able to dance in the grass while music twines all around me.

This latest issue of Mused celebrates poetry, photography, painting, short stories, memoirs, and much more. And it’s free!

Enjoy!

http://www.bellaonline.com/review/issues/summer2018/

Getting Married in June

Ah, June, the most romantic and beautiful of months, so many feel. Is it any surprise that there are so many weddings in June?

What do the Irish have to say about marrying in June?

Marry when June roses blow,
over land and sea you’ll go.

Talk about delightful! Who knows what types of wonderful places you will get to visit? Could it be the cafes of Paris you get to explore? Maybe you’ll ride the gondolas in Venice, Italy. Maybe you’ll explore the hills and dales of Ireland itself!

What is your dream vacation? The one place you’d really, really want to go? Perhaps your future holds that in store for you! As a special blessing for your love!

Hold fast to those dreams. Work toward them day by day and you never know – they could just come true!

Social Networking and the Ex-Partner

Most of us have done it out of curiosity, anger, or hurt. Our modern world makes it so easy. We google our ex-partner. We check in on their Facebook page, their Twitter feed, and their Instagram photos. Maybe we’re hoping to feel better by learning that they still pine for us. Maybe we’re hoping to desperately reconnect with a glimpse of what was lost. Maybe we need forgiveness.

Heck, maybe we’re just bored.

However, if you’re already courting or connecting with another person, those reachings for the past can have a damaging effect.

You’ve probably heard some of the more serious tales. The two exs sneak off and cheat with each other, since they are used to being intimate already. It’s an easy trap to fall back into. Some exs become more extreme and leave their current partners for each other. It’s easy to idealize that past – to remember all the good times and gloss over the not-so-good times. In the meantime, pain and anguish is caused to the current partners who trusted in you. And, in the end, in most cases, the exs break up again for pretty much the same reasons they split up in the first place. It just wasn’t meant to be.

But even more subtle connections with an ex can harm not only your relationship but your own growth and contentment as an individual. More and more researchers have been studying these effects.

Tara C. Marshall is one of the researchers exploring this arena. She found that the more a person spent time following the activities of an ex, the more that person stopped living in the present or planning for the future. Instead, they were drawn back to the way things “should” have been. Critical time, energy, and focus were supplied to that past situation instead of to current possibilities.

It can be even worse if the ex seems to have found a happy life and/or kindled a new relationship they’re joyful about. These can all make the person in question feel less happy about what they have achieved.

Looking at the research out there, it’s usually better to create a path forward which focuses on your own growth and on the relationships you are forming. That’s not to say you have to shun an ex. If you happen to run into each other, it’s usually the best policy to remain polite. But none of us have a time machine. We all can only control this one moment we’re in. We can plan for our future. Hopefully we learn from the past so that we make better choices with each day.

Getting Married in May

Getting Married in April might seem simply ideal. There are cherry blossoms in the air. The beautiful gentle breezes. Warm sunshine. Lots of flowers.

So why is it that in the traditional set of Irish sayings about months we have:

Marry in the month of May,
you will surely rue the day.

Really??

However, the Irish were a practical lot. They knew that May was an INCREDIBLY busy time for farmers. It was when everything had to be planted. Tended to. Cared for. The last thing a person should be doing in May is wandering off for days to just party. Never mind throwing a party that would cause every other farmer to come and join them!

The Irish wanted to make sure that May was dedicated to the planting season. It was after all that hard work was done that the celebrations could begin!

In our modern times, most of us aren’t farmers, so we don’t have the same kind of restraints. So if you’re marrying in May, do not despair. We can treasure our older traditions without being bound by them. We can know that the original farmers slaved day and night to keep their farms going. We can be grateful that for most of us, times are a bit easier and we have the blessing of being able to Marry in May.

So think of it in that way. It’s a blessing. We have a life we can treasure.

Enjoy!

Romantic Bermuda Cruise

I just got back from a delightfully romantic cruise to Bermuda. The boat goes right out of Boston, so for me there’s no flights involve. We simply drive into Boston, park there, hop on the boat, and then it’s beautiful sailing for a week. The boat arrives at Bermuda and docks there so you can get on and off whenever you want.

I love to snorkel and take photography of architecture, so it was just wonderful. Having delightful food available whenever I wanted was a treat, too!

Nearly every building on Bermuda seems to be done in pastel shades of pink, blue, yellow, and green. This church is at St. George’s which is a beautiful village.

I have a romantic suggestion for people considering a trip like this. On one of the ferry rides I was seated near a dating couple. The woman spent the entire hour-long trip complaining about her ex-boyfriend. I get it. The guy wasn’t right for her. But surely there’s a better way to spend one’s energy and vacation time than stressing and ranting about someone who, hopefully, is now no longer important in your life. Especially when you’ve got a new, interested beau sitting right there beside you.

Life is short. Every day is precious. Treasure it and spend it enjoying the people around you who care for you.

And do try a cruise :). They are often fantastically cost-effective ways to explore places full of beauty and wonder.

Have you gone on a cruise? Where did you go? I’d love to hear about it!

Native American Wedding Traditions Book


Photo taken by Lisa Shea

I have been working on my book about Native American wedding traditions for over ten years. I’m a person who can normally write a book in just a few months! Why is this taking so long?

One answer is that there are just so many tribes out there. When I write about Irish traditions, it’s just one small country. Sure, there are variations between Galway and Limerick, but they’re all still part of one main culture. In comparison, there are hundreds upon hundreds of Native American tribes with ways of life which can vary quite drastically. Some are primarily hunters. Some are primarily farmers. Some have family life centered around a mother. Some around the father. To write just one book about all of those different traditions is quite daunting.

Also, I love Native American museums. There are so many of them, and each one has amazing items on display! I could keep visiting them forever.

What I have to do is just call what I’m working on version 1. I can then come out with new versions as I add in more information. But I should at least get published what I currently have, so people can read and comment on that. And then I can move forward!

Thoughts?

Getting Married in April

The Irish have a saying for every month of the year! Here’s their proverb for those who get married in April.

Marry in April when you can,
joy for maiden and for man

This is about as good as it gets for the Irish. They are celebrating love and laughter with a straightforward encouragement! That’s what a happy relationship is all about.

Gather your best friends together, treasure your love, and know that it was meant to be.

Enjoy all those spring flowers and celebrate a romance which will last with joy and laughter!

Native American Baskets


Photo by Lisa Shea

I took this photo of Native American baskets at the Native American museum in New Hampshire. It is always so inspiring when I go to these museums. We currently live in a world where we buy plastic items and toss them in the trash if they get scratched. We pollute our world.

These baskets take us back to a time where people cared about each item they owned. The items were made by hand to be both beautiful and functional. When the items were done with their life of use, they simply disintegrated back into the soil to nourish it.

March Irish Marriage Proverb

The luck of the Irish is definitely strong in March! This is the month with St. Patrick’s Day in it!

What do the Irish say about getting married in March?

If you wed when March winds blow,
joy and sorrow both you’ll know.

That is the way of our world. We all face ups and downs. That’s why the wedding vows traditionally say “for better or for worse” – and it’s those downs which make us really appreciate the ups. You know you have a true partner in life when they stick with you even during the rough spots.

So treasure your March wedding and know it’s the way the Irish meant for it to be!